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The Evolution of Compassion

Posted on: October 30th, 2012 by Kathie England | Time for Success No Comments

Watching Rick Hanson’s interview on October 29 with Dr. Dacher Keltner, professor at the University of California, Berkeley, inspired me to share their thoughts about the evolution of compassion in humans, especially in light of the challenges faced by those touched by Hurricane Sandy last night.

Keltner describes how we are a “radically social species.” Our senstivity to emotions has helped us survive as a species. But love and hate within and between groups have co-evolved. When we make the distinction between us and them or between me and you, we tend to feed the “wolf of hate.” Keltner and Hanson are optimistic that compassion can be learned and is as important to teach as reading and math if our species is to survive.

Keltner who has worked with the Dali Lama says that the Dali Lama believes the basic setting of the human mind is compassion. We have seen that outpouring in the last 24 hours as relief workers around the country seek to aid those devastated by Hurricane Sandy. The greatest power is found in those who are kind and compassionate!

This morning I read an article by Eric Utne in the November/December 2012 issue of the Utne Reader. Utne echoed a similar theme that when we evolve beyond individuation that tends to lead to isolation, alienation, and loneliness, we develop our capacity for empathy and for communities based on our common humanity.

Keltner offers a similar perspective when he describes how we increase our ability to collaborate when we hear about friendships among people of different ethnic backgrounds. When we see different ethnic faces, it helps to reduce distinctions and increase familiarity.

What if it didn’t take a disatrous storm to help us reduce the distinction between them and us, between you and me?

Watch the entire interview at http://live.soundstrue.com/compassionatebrain/event.php

The Compassionate Brain: Cultivating a Forgiving Heart

Posted on: October 29th, 2012 by Kathie England | Time for Success No Comments

What does it take to develop a forgiving heart?

That is the question explored by Tara Brach, Ph.D., in the third part of The Compassionate Brain Series mentioned in an earlier blog post. Dr. Brach proposes that the first step in developing a forgiving heart is to develop compassion for ourselves and to forgive ourselves for all those thoughts and feelings that hold us back.

But where do we start?

The first step is the PAUSE. Just as Viktor Frankl, the Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist who survived the holocaust, describes in Man’s Search for Meaning, “Between the stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

Dr. Brach explains that in that PAUSE we have the opportunity to create a space. In that space we create possibility, how to respond to the challenge we face in that moment. The PAUSE might be no more than a few seconds. During this pause we can name the suffering and let go of blame – for onself or others.

This process is very similar to the strategy I have described in the Making Time for Success series of free monthly calls. I call it APBA: Awareness + Pause + Breath + Act (take a small step). This is the power to choose.

I invite you to watch Rick Hanson’s interview with Dr. Brach that was conducted a week ago and available for free through the link below:

http://live.soundstrue.com/compassionatebrain/event.php

 

The Compassionate Brain – Small Steps

Posted on: October 24th, 2012 by Kathie England | Time for Success No Comments

The Compassionate Brain is a FREE series of seven interviews conducted by Rick Hanson, Ph.D. who is the author of Buddha’s Brain.

 

The interviews are conducted with leading researchers in the field of neuroscience.

The first interview is with Richie Davidson, Ph.D. who is the author of The Emotional Life of the Brain. The title of his interview is How the Brain Changes the Mind. Davidson was invited by the Dali Lama in 1992 to explore the brains of contemplatives (individuals who had studied meditation for a minimum of 10,000 hours). The goal was to understand how humans develop compassion.

I invite you to watch this interview and the next six in the series. The link is:

http://live.soundstrue.com/compassionatebrain/event.php

One of the fascinating items shared in this interview is that as few as eight minutes a day of meditation created measurable changes in the brains of individuals who had received only 30 minutes of training for  two weeks.

I invite you to treat yourself to this amazing opportunity to learn about how we can develop compassionate brains!

A Celebration

Posted on: October 23rd, 2012 by Kathie England | Time for Success No Comments

2012 Marks the 10th Anniversary of Time for Success!

To celebrate this important milestone, I focused on three projects:

  • Redesigning my website
  • Creating a new business card
  • Shifting my focus to individual and group coaching (though I’ll still do hands-on organizing with clients who want help creating new habits)

 

“Everyone needs a coach!”

 

Those were the inspiring words of Benjamin Zander, co-author of The Art of Possibility, as he celebrated the launch of The Intelligent Optimist, an independent international magazine and community that believes in progress, ongoing opportunities, and the creativity of humankind.

Just as a cocoon unfolds to become a butterfly, I feel with my transition to coaching I’m ready to fly. I’m ready to live my purpose as your catalyst! I believe together our possibilities are infinite!

I invite you to celebrate with with me!

“Every journey begins with a single step.”

What’s holding you back?

I invite you to explore my new website!

Three Ways to Think Deeply at Work – David Rock

Posted on: October 4th, 2012 by Kathie England | Time for Success No Comments

David Rock, an executive coach and one of my favorite writers, recently discussed how to think deeply at work in the Harvard Business Review Blog Network. (Rock is also the founder of the Neuroleadership Summit.)

“Understanding the Stage” is one of the strategies Rock discusses in the blog. I first discovered this idea in his book Your Brain At Work where Rock compares our prefrontal cortex to a small stage, the size you might find in a child’s bedroom rather than at Carnegie Hall. The essence of this analogy is that the stage, our prefrontal cortex, has severe limitations and when we overload it with actors, some will fall off.

When we feel overwhelmed, our small stage has too many actors trying to play their parts. They just don’t fit and so they fall off the stage (out of our consciousness). To prevent the actors from falling off the stage, we need to limit the number who appear at anyone time. This comparison is similar to making a distinction between your to do list for today and the master list of all the things you want to do. Your daily to do list needs to remain small, just as we need to limit the number of actors on the stage (maybe no more than 3 to 5 tasks).

This strategy focuses our attention. The actor plays a role and then moves off the stage making room for another actor.

Refer to the link below for a review of the other two ways to think deeply at work:

http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/09/three_ways_to_think_deeply_at_work.html

World Pulse Live – The power of new media

Posted on: October 1st, 2012 by TFSwp No Comments

Three amazing women who are correspondents for World Pulse are using the power of new media to change the lives of women around the world! They will be speaking live to the U.S. State Department on Wednesday, October 3, 2012 and we can listen to their conversation via a Global Webchat.

World Pulse began as a magazine created by Jensine Larsen, a young journalist who began her  work in the Amazon. Today she is helping women discover the power of their voices to literally change their own life and the lives of their sisters through new media and technology. In Half the Sky Nicholas D. Kristof and Sheryl WuDnn list signing up for email updates from World Pulse as one of the steps you can take in the next ten minutes to change the world.

Last Friday, September 28, I had the pleasure of seeing Jensine and these three women speak to the City Club of Portland. Just returned from addressing the United Nations and the Clinton Global Initiative, they were headed to the U.S. State Department next.

Neema Namadamu from the Democratic Republic of Congo shared her incredible story of being afflicted with polio at the age of two and how her mother carried her on her back to school each day so she could get an education. Today she uses her expertise in technology to reach and empower women throughout the Congo, known as the most dangerous place in the world to be a woman. Her accomplishments include creating a cyber cafe for women.

Hummingbird, a member of the Kurdish minority in Syria, shared her vision of using social media to unleash the apirations of women in her war-torn country where children and women die daily in the streets at the hands of government forces. She spoke of the 1-2 million people who have been displaced during this violence, of the more than 250,000 individuals who have fled their country, and of the more than 30,000 who have been killed. Her goals include breaking the silence about what’s happening in Syria and urging the world to provide humanitarian relief. She sees social media as a means for reconcilation in her ravaged country.

Stella Paul , now an award-winning young journalist, grew up in impoverished Northeast India and barely survived diphtheria as an unwanted girl child (1600 girl fetuses are killed each day in utero). Today she speaks for the marginalized women of her country and the world as she helps them find their voices and tell their own stories. She believes that training women is the key to ending their inequality. Women are the change makers.

Go to www.worldpulse.com to learn more about the Global Webchat on Wednesday.

Possibility

Posted on: September 28th, 2012 by TFSwp No Comments

Benjamin Zander, co-author of The Art of Possibility, spoke on September 26, 2012 in San Francisco to help launch the new magazine, The Intelligent Optimist (formerly titled The Ode). The current issue includes an interview with him.

Zander suggests that optimism is about possibility. It’s like a circle with arrows that point out vs. pessimism which is a downward spiral.

He believes that optimism is a skill and it can be taught. He said he is very optimistic about the next 30 years – it’s about seeing the possibilities that we are capable of creating.

My favorite comment in his introduction was that EVERYONE needs a coach. His coach for the past 28 years has been Rosamund Stone Zander, his co-author of The Art of Possibility, who is currently working on their next book. 

What do you believe is possible – for you, for our country, for our planet?

If you’re feeling stuck about possibilities, you’ll want to read The Art of Possibility immediately.

Once the link from Zander’s presentation is available, I’ll post on this blog.

Believing in Change

Posted on: September 26th, 2012 by TFSwp No Comments

William James wrote that “the will to believe is the most important ingredient in creating belief in change.”

In The Power of Habit, Charles Duhigg proposes that one of the most important methods for creating that belief is habits. Quoting James, Duhigg explains that habits are what allow us to “do a thing with difficulty the first time, but soon do it more and more easily, and finally, with sufficient practice, do it semi-mechanically, or with hardly any consciousness at all.”

Duhigg continues, “If you believe you can change – if you make it a habit – the change becomes real. This is the real power of habit: the insight that your habits are what you choose them to be.”

In 2013 I will be launching a new virtual workshop about habits based on Duhigg’s work in The Power of Habit. The title I’m contemplating is “It’s Habit-Forming.”

The format will be similar to the virtual workshop I have facilitated for the past three years titled “Small Steps to Profound Change, A virtual workshop based on the book One Small Step Can Change Your Life by Robert Maurer.”

Duhigg’s perspective about the power of habits in our lives stimulates the catalyst in me to take this next step and offer a new virtual workshop.

The Power of Habit

Posted on: September 21st, 2012 by TFSwp No Comments

Charles Duhigg’s book, The Power of Habit, provides an excellent model for how we develop habits without even realizing it and how we can consciously create new ones. He explains the three components of a habit – a cue, a routine, and a reward. The routine is the habit and that where you focus when you want to make a shift.

The free Making Time for Success call on Monday, September 24 at 4-5 p.m. will briefly discuss this topic as we explore Completion Chemistry. You can get a flier about the call at www.timeforsuccess.net/events  and you can register by sending an email to kathie@timeforsuccess.net.

Completion Chemistry

Posted on: September 20th, 2012 by TFSwp No Comments
  • Do you enjoy the experience of completing important tasks and projects?

  • Would you like to experience this feeling more frequently?

Learn how completion chemistry can help you be more successful personally and professionally.

Joing the next FREE call in the Making Time for Success series on Monday, September 24, 2012 at 4-5 p.m. (Pacific). Go to www.timeforsuccess.net/events for a flier.  Email kathie@timeforsuccess.net to register and get the workshop phone and access numbers as well as the hand-outs.